Trying to conceive and create LIFE inside our bodies should be one of the most magical and joyous times of our lives. Period. Unless you're approaching 35, or heaven forbid 40 and beyond, then the baby-making journey becomes wrought with fear-inducing messages from just about everybody (including your grandmother).
Once you were cool about your age and your journey, but as the months and maybe years went on, it's getting harder to keep an optimistic attitude. Quite frankly, there are triggers everywhere: from the pregnant woman on the street to your social media feed filled with pictures of ultrasounds, gender reveal parties, and newborns.
By now maybe you've become a little too familiar with feelings of shame, guilt, disappointment, jealousy, competitiveness, and feeling alone and not understood - even by the people closest to you.
Maybe you've tried just about everything, from the boring gluten-soy-dairy-meets-joy-free diet, to acupuncture, to Mayan massages, castor oil packs, and supplements that smell so strong they make your toes curl.
And then there is the next birthday looming just around the corner.
I am a seasoned journalist, certified Mental Strength trainer, and author of the bestselling book "The Joy of Later Motherhood" - and first-time mom at age 44!
It took over 4 years from the moment I said "Yes, I'd like to have a child" to the moment I held my boy Hunter in my arms for the first time. And in these years, I learned a most valuable lesson:
Pregnancy is not just a physical affair, pregnancy is also a mental, emotional, and sometimes even spiritual affair. In fact, the mental and emotional well-being of a woman is actually the precursor to her pregnancy!
But how can you stay hopeful and open and even joyful on a journey that may be the hardest and most trying experience you've ever gone through?
That was my challenge - is it yours too?
That's why I use my expertise as a Mental Strength Trainer to focus specifically on the fertility journey - to make YOUR journey easier, more peaceful, and less trying.
That's why I created the online course "Baby, You've Got This!" and also individually coach women who are most often over 40, as I was.
Here are just a few examples of how different your life will be:
In our time together - in the online course "Baby, You've Got This!" and our personal sessions - we dive deep into the mind-body connection. These are just a few examples of what you'll learn:
How would you like to fall in love with your body so passionately that you can't walk by a mirror without giving yourself an adoring look? Even if the mirror hangs in the waiting room of a fertility clinic?
According to Oriental medicine, your body is the temple your baby will reside in - so let's make it as welcoming as a 5-star hotel! We'll work together on how to:
Sometimes even the most patient of us get derailed when the excitement of possibly being pregnant turns into the agony of the dreaded two-week wait.
Together we'll find the best techniques that suit YOUR personality to:
UPDATE: Elke naturally conceived at age 47 and had a gorgeous baby girl in December 2022. Elke wrote this to me: "Working with you was one of the best decisions I ever made: Your 360°-view on life, your expertise in Mind-Body-Spirit, as well as your positive and encouraging attitude, gave me the courage to become a mom a little bit later in life!"
"I had been feeling alone and a bit lost on my fertility journey. When I heard about Bettina I instantly knew I wanted to work with her. I am 43 and following a couple of miscarriages and broken relationships, I was feeling quite disillusioned and lost as to what step to take next on my fertility journey. I took Bettina's course, which restored my hope in becoming a mother, and I've learned incredibly valuable skills in reframing my mind for joy, not just in motherhood, but in finding everyday joy in my life. Bettina's course is packed with wisdom and strategy, and I loved her Stories of Hope series. If you are on the fence, I'd say jump and sign up NOW, you will not regret it."
"After an almost 8 year journey, with countless treatments and practitioners, doing Bettina's course and being coached by her was like a breath of fresh air. It renewed my hope, trust and knowing that my baby is coming. It helped me to connect more deeply with my intuition, find clarity, create new boundaries and new action plans. This is a truly empowering and inspiring course for 40+ mamas-to-be that beautifully encompasses the three pillars of Body, Mind and Spirit that are crucial on the fertility journey. And Bettina is the kind of guide you want cheering you on, a force to be reckoned with, passionate, wise and full of love. I highly recommend Bettina's wonderful course. It may not only change your journey, it may in fact change your life."
There is a truth my dear, one that the modern medical community, Dr. Google, and others completely overlook.
When it comes to getting pregnant - to creating life - usually, the focus of all people involved is squarely on the physical aspect of conception - often with the attitude that the body is broken and needs to be fixed.
All the while your biggest asset in the whole equation goes untapped:
Seriously, I bet you've spent a lot more time and energy on your diet or the number of supplements you take, than on the negative self-talk that's going on in the privacy of your mind.
For example, you surely know how bad chronic inflammation - induced by chronic stress - is for your body. But do you know that you pollute and inflame your body just as quickly and effectively through toxic thoughts and negativity?
What do you think happens when you beat yourself up by repeatedly telling yourself you're TOO OLD, infertile, and "can't even do what every woman is designed to do"?
You are smart, you know about the mind-body connection. But have you considered that the thoughts you think - especially if there are some big emotions attached to them - start a biochemical process in the body that either supports or hinders your ability to get pregnant?
Even though most of us are aware of the importance of our minds and our thoughts, we are not trained to harness these powers to our benefit. And we completely forget about the mind-body connection when we are swept up into the roller coaster of TTC (trying to conceive)!
Please take this in:
Let's do this, my dear! As a certified mental strength trainer my coaching (online and in-person) always focuses on the three pillars of Well-Being: Mind, Body, and Spirit, and on bringing you more peace, joy, clarity, and strength on your journey toward having your baby!
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This 4-week online course called "Baby, You've Got This!" offers:
This 4-week long online course offers 5 modules with 15+ hours of teachings, expert interviews, and stories of hope!
MONEY BACK GUARANTEE: If you are not 100% satisfied after watching Module One, we'll give you a full refund on the course. Just send us an email to hello @bettinagordon.com within the first seven days after purchasing the course before Module Two is released.
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MONEY BACK GUARANTEE: Your happiness is what we're striving for. If - for whatever reason - you'd rather not continue coaching after our first session, I happily refund the money for the whole package (minus a $100 transaction fee). Just let me know at the end of our first session.
One Time Payment
MONEY BACK GUARANTEE: Happy customers are our priority! If - for whatever reason - you'd rather not continue coaching after our first session, I happily refund the money for the whole package (minus a $100 transaction fee). Just let me know at the end of our first session.
Tara, 40, who lives in the U.S., on the transformation she went through when she said "YES"
"Bettina’s course "Baby, You've Got This!" and the coaching sessions with her really helped change my perspective, actually my whole outlook on my future! Earlier in the year I came so close to achieving my dream, and then it all came crashing down around me. I had emergency surgery for a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. I lost my baby and my Fallopian tube. My body and my heart were broken. I had been thinking about counseling but wanted to find someone who really “got” me and understood what I was going through. Bettina “gets” it! Bettina’s heartfelt coaching helped me reframe my fertility struggles. I had been fighting for so long, and Bettina gave me permission to draw the line in the sand. Now, I’ve come to know that I don’t need to fight anymore. I know that whatever happens or doesn’t happen— I will be ok."
"I’ve been a therapist for 20 years and have personally worked with hundreds of women – but when I am the one who needs support and coaching, I turn to Bettina. She’s truly a gifted coach. Through her skillful questioning, honed over decades in journalism, she helps me to go to the core of my issue and fears, define my next best step and take action quickly and boldly. "